What is sex therapy? How might it differ from other forms of therapy?
Sexuality is an integral part of self-expression that is informed by our views of self, our sexual choices, our gender identification, and our physical selves. Sex therapists address an individual’s or couple’s desire to participate in sexual activity, improve self image, and enrich sexual lives. Clients may present with a sexuality related issue, such as questioning of gender identity, sexual orientation, or traditional monogamous relationships. Some may present with process difficulties which may include low sexual desire (low libido), erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, or failure to achieve orgasm. All clients are treated with the utmost dignity and respect while we collaborate on specific ways to strengthen positive sexual functioning and sexual quality of life.
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps this problem feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for a session a week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
How could I possibly share the most private, intimate and sexual aspects of my life with a complete stranger?
I totally understand that you might feel awkward and uncomfortable speaking to someone you just met. It can be intimidating and scary. But it also can feel empowering and allow for a great sense of relief. Our first session will mostly be about getting to know each other and helping you to build the trust that I promise I will greatly appreciate and never take lightly. Understand too that I have been doing this a while and have heard almost everything. Nothing shocks me and there is no judgement, EVER! You decide the pace at which you would like to proceed and I will never move more quickly than you are ready to go. Our sessions are a collaboration based on your self-knowledge because you know your life better than anyone, including me. And I would never take offense if you decided after the first, third, or 10th session that our partnership was not working out for you. I will even recommend another therapist if you would like my help.